I think I’m safe to say that mostly everyone loved Kate Middleton’s wedding dress. It was elegant, beautiful and classic. Her veil was almost ethereal. She looked perfect. I was not disappointed.
Many are talking about her dress. Many are talking about how her dress with the lace sleeves will probably be the new fashion trend in wedding dresses. Many are also talking about how strapless dresses are simply horrible.
I agree that strapless dresses are not the ideal. However, I wore one at my wedding and I have my reasons.
Strapless wedding dresses are e v e r y w h e r e. It’s very hard to find one with sleeves. The strapless fad is just getting kind of overdone and boring. I think it’s time to move on to the next fad, and I think Kate Middleton’s dress will be a step in the right direction.
Not only are strapless wedding dresses overused, but many of them are simply God-awful immodest. There are just some women who should not be wearing strapless. How do you think the pastor feels when he is uniting a man and woman in marriage and he is trying hard to avert his eyes from a woman’s buxom chest overflowing out of her dress? Dear Heavens- what if a nipple popped out?! Wardrobe malfunctions aren’t just in Hollywood.
I don’t think many women take seriously the holiness and reverence that are a part of the wedding ceremony. A priest once told me that while he was in the sacristy after a wedding he looked out and saw the bride lying across the altar getting her photo taken. He quickly went out there and stopped that sacrilege. I wouldn’t have blamed him if he would have gone all Jesus-and-the-moneychangers on them. I’m not making excuses for her, but she was probably just very poorly catechized and didn’t realize just how inappropriate that was. There are many women who don’t realize how inappropriate their cleavage showing for all on earth and Heaven to see. Either that or they just don’t care. They want to feel good about themselves. Who cares about modesty?
When I embarked on my journey to find my wedding dress it was not fun. I wanted straps. I wanted to be modest. I wanted to be different. My mom REALLY pushed for me having straps or a jacket of some sort. You can say I’m making excuses for myself, but- we just couldn’t afford it. Getting fitted for a jacket (with my short arms) or having a seamstress sew sleeves on just wasn’t feasible for me financially. I couldn’t afford to go to a boutique where it’s easier to find a dress with straps. I instead made sure that my dress’s bodice would be high enough on my chest so that there would be no cleavage and that my veil would be covering my shoulders. I agonized over this choice. If it wouldn’t have been for one of my college housemates who is one of the holiest women I know wearing a tasteful strapless dress to her own wedding I would have probably worn a white sweat shirt over my dress or something. Thankfully my mother approved of my choice of dress and when it was fitted to my body I felt absolutely beautiful. I also felt at peace with the appropriateness of my dress
So when I read comments stating how one hopes that wedding dresses like Kate’s will come into style- I agree. However, when I read comments on how tasteless and horrible strapless dresses are I get offended. I’ve read comments like these in blogs for a while now, but now they are popping up everywhere now that there’s commentary on Kate’s wedding dress. We don’t know the reasons for women wearing strapless. Maybe they can’t afford straps or something modest. Maybe they ran out of time to find a modest dress. Maybe they had limited resources to find a non-strapless dress. Maybe they are just honestly ignorant in their view of modesty and appropriateness in church. But when I read comments echoing the though “Down with the strapless dresses” I feel like one is saying to me- Your dress was ugly. It was inappropriate. Shame on you.
Instead of addressing strapless dresses in a way of making women feel inadequate, how about we show women that they can be beautiful brides without wearing strapless. Let’s accentuate how modesty is a beautiful aspect of womanhood and how we should embrace it.
Or maybe I’m upset about this because I’m hormonal and sleep-deprived. I don’t know, but this is just my two cents.